No one gets out of this alive, literally none of us and the transitions that come looking for all of us at some point usually arrive without warning and whilst we can’t avoid them, we can learn to navigate them with grace, and turn challenge into opportunity.
It’s fair to say I’ve become fascinated, curious and passionate about the journey of life and how we navigate it, having had my own fair share of traumatic life experiences, especially around relationship endings divorce etc
This curiosity is what fuels my purpose, my work and speaks to the heart of my mission through Inner Earth…
Helping individuals to navigate pivotal life moments, and unlock their true potential.
There’s this great quote I read many years ago in a great little book called The Rules of Life by Richard Templar which speaks to the fact that there will always be bumps in the road, as we navigate life, if we can accept them and not resist them we can move through these periods more efficiently.
“Life has its bumps in the road, and you can’t always smooth them out. What you can do is accept them as part of who you are — and move forward anyway.”
Richard Templar – The Rules of Life
Understanding The Stages
In order to navigate through difficult life transitions with more ease and grace, it is helpful to first have a good understanding of the stages that the journey will undoubtedly take you through.
I’ve been reading this week about William Bridges Transition model which I feel really speaks to this journey beautifully and simply.
It defines that Change is external to us and Transition is psychological or inner, and that it takes us through three distinctive stages:
- The Ending – Every transition that we go through begins with an ending. We have to let go of the old thing before we can pick up the new one, not just outwardly but inwardly. This is where the pain and suffering begins.
- The Neutral Zone – This is the empty, directionless or fallow time in between the stages. Initially fraught with confusion, probably sadness, depression, which then leads to a realisation of space, freedom, opportunity and creativity.
- The New Beginning – The light at the end of the tunnel, the gold at the end of the rainbow, the start of a new more aligned and fulfilling chapter, a period of gratitude and reflection, that you could never of imagined possible and would never have happened if it wasn’t for the ending.
The Right Tools for The Job
Once you know what stage you’re in then you can select the right tools for the job, and remember that the boundaries of each stage will blur or overlap into the other, as life is never as ‘clean cut’ as we would like it to conveniently be.
If you find yourself going through these stages I have a variety of free and paid tools that will help you to navigate the choppy waters of change, and guide you back into the still waters of a welcoming port.
🎧 The Anxiety Toolkit (Email Series) – FREE
This is a free 3-day email series that provides you with three simple techniques and audio downloads that will help you to navigate the moments when anxiety and despair are strongest within you.
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📖 The Journey to the Centre of Your Soul (Amazon and Audible) – £9.99
The Journey to the Centre of your Soul is a guide for those who are willing to ask deep questions about their relationship to life so they may uncover who they are and who they want to be.
The Journey to the Centre of Your Soul will uncover your pure and unique expression.
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✨ The 14 Day Intuition Upgrade (14-day program) – £147
The 14-Day Intuition Upgrade is a guided journey designed to help you break free from feeling stuck and disconnected. Over two weeks, you’ll learn to trust your inner voice, reconnect with your purpose, and uncover a clearer path forward. Each day offers simple yet powerful practices to strengthen your intuition, awaken self-trust, and create space for new possibilities in your life.
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🧭 The Pathfinder Program (6-week program) – £595
Feeling stuck at a crossroads in your career, relationships, or personal growth?
The Pathfinder Program is a transformative hypnotherapy and life guidance experience designed to help you break through uncertainty, gain clarity, and take empowered action.
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Turning Led into Gold
When we are being blown apart by stage 1 the ending or lying in a pool of destruction in stage 2 the neutral zone, we can’t see or even imagine how this situation could ever lead to something positive but such is the nature of life, death and the universal laws that govern change.
In Autumn the leaves die, fall and rot on the ground as the bleak Winter takes hold and a period of inertia begins, and then out of no where Spring emerges, new life begins, bringing new hope, new energy and new opportunity, such is the same with our life transitions, such is the nature of the universe.
Life must be lived forwards, but can only be understood looking backwards.
If we can try in those moments of darkness to ask ourselves the question ‘what is this showing me about who I am and who I want to be?’ we can begin to alchemise a randomly painful pointless circumstance into an opportunity for renewal, growth, hope and opportunity.
If we can shift our perspective to life happening for us, rather than to us, we can begin to navigate those bumps in the road with more grace and ease.
Your Opportunity
If you feel lost, stuck or confused and would like help in navigating through the stages of transition in your life, then I’d love to help and share with you how my Pathfinder program could help you.
